The SAGITTARIUS Woman
"Then it doesn't matter which way you walk," said the Cat.
"So long as I get somewhere," Alice added as an explanation.
"Oh, you're sure to do that," said the Cat," if you only walk long enough."
She's
not always going to say the kind of things you want to hear. Most of
the time, she'll curl your sideburns with her remarkable, flat
statements and her embarrassing questions. But now and then she'll say
something so special and splendid it will make you feel like singing.
You may need a sample. Scene: Coffee shop. You've just gotten up the courage to tell her you love her, but before you can say it, she looks at you with wide-open, guileless blue
eyes-or forthright, steady brown ones- and asks you curiously, "How do
you feel about being so short? Does it make you neurotic or anything?"
While you're gulping, trying manfully to recover, she'll add, "You
shouldn't care about it. Lots of men were short. Like Napoleon. And
Fiorello LaGuardia." That's almost adding insult to injury, but before
you get a chance to walk out, thinking no woman ever deserved such
ungallant treatment more, shell muse dreamily, "I hate men who look
like bean poles. You're perfect. I noticed when we were walking over
here tonight-we measure just right together."
Sit back down. You're staying. For a long time. A friendly, frank Sagittarius girl has just wound herself around your heart with her own, peculiar brand of charm. She'll
always be a little outspoken, because she sees the world exactly as it
is, even while she's wearing those ridiculous, rose-tinted glasses. That, you must admit, is quite a talent. It's
not everyone who can apply clear, reasonable logic to every situation,
and retain the happy faculty of believing things will get better or
else deciding to accept them or what they are.
Sagittarius females are regular Pollyannas. It will cut
when she tells you she wishes you would make more money, but then
she'll add, "Of course, too much money can make people selfish. Maybe
it's lucky that you're poor." Admittedly, it's sort of a left-handed
optimism, but you'll get used to it. This girl will never lie to you. Sometimes, you may wish she would. Show
curiosity about how she spends the nights you're not with her, and
you'll get a detailed, perfectly honest report of the letters she
writes to that handsome intern she met last summer on her vacation and
how many dates she turns down on the phone. She
may even relate her troubles with insomnia, brought on when she lies
awake at night wondering if maybe what she feels for you is friendship
instead of love. You'll feel like yelling at her, "For Pete's sake, lie a little once in a while, can't you? A man has his pride." Don't
yell too loud. You'll offend her, and she's not exactly noncombustible
herself. Sagittarius girls have been known to fly into some pretty
fiery rages.
She will probably live alone. Sagittarius girls are very independent,
and both sexes have a strange aloofness to family ties. Maybe it's
because they travel so much, they don't get home often enough to get to
know their families well. Even if they only travel to the movies and girl friends' houses, they're restlessly on the go.
I don't want to frighten you, but I once knew a Sagittarius woman so
unaware of the nuances of family relationships that she invited her
rejected beau to come along on her honeymoon with her new husband. The
poor thing looked so lonesome. He said he'd pay his own way. Why are you looking at her like that? Did she do something wrong?
There's one thing you'll have to learn right away, or the relationship will never get off the ground. When you want her to do something, ask her. Don't tell her. The cave man technique went out with Tarzan and Jane, as far as she's concerned. She enjoys being protected, but she doesn't want to be ordered around. Not even her mother gets away with that. Who are you, that you should top her mother? She may have an Aries mother, and if a Mars woman can't boss her around, no male on earth is going to do it. However, there's a queer twist to her nature. Although she dislikes being bossed, especially in public, when she's testing you for firmness, be firm. Jupiter
women can't stand weak, wishy-washy men. If she gets too high-spirited
and her clever tongue gets too sarcastic, or she threatens some action
that really incenses you, give her a light touch of the Tarzan
treatment. Just enough to keep her in line. Like "You do that and I'll break your neck." She may react with surprising meekness if she thinks you're serious.
A Sagittarius female has no intention of giving up her individuality
for any male, but she kind of likes to know you think of her as a girl.
She may confuse you, but that's nothing to what she does to herself. Many a Sagittarius girl mistakes friendship for | love and love for friendship. If
you're one of those old-fashioned men who prefer evasiveness and
timidity in your women, you'd better look for another Bingo partner. This
young lady has bright, frank ways with men, and she's not going to play
any silly games of "Guess how I feel" or "Guess what I think!" How she feels and what she thinks are identical with how she acts and what she says. Her
outspoken bluntness naturally causes misunderstandings, and a good
share of fiery battles, let alone hurt feelings, but it doesn't crush
her spirit. Jupiter pride comes to the surface and
rescues her in a crisis, allowing her to pass off her heartache as the
biggest joke of the season. Inside, she may be weeping, but she'll
employ such clever wit in answering the questions of friends about the
break that they'll decide the whole affair was a harmless flirtation on
her part. Little will they guess how she soaks her pillow every night,
wondering what she could possibly have said that fractured everything.
It might have been when she told him not to stop by her apartment the
time he called from the lobby around midnight-because she was "busy
talking with a man who had a few problems." Actually, the man was her
brother-in-law, but with the peculiar Sagittarius twist of leaving out
the core of the story, she neglected to mention that. Why should she have to explain herself? (All Sagittarians show a raging, righteous anger when their integrity is doubted.)
Or it could have been when he asked her if she minded him bringing his
little sister along to the movies and she blurted out, "Gosh, I hope
that doesn't mean she's going to be hanging around all the time when
we're married." She may have sincerely liked the young girl, but the
natural Sagittarian fear of being suffocated by in-laws brought on her
thoughtless and forthright statement. Now she misses his sister as much
as the man, but it's too late to explain what she meant. Besides, no
one would understand.
Impasses
like this are impossible for her to fathom, for all her logical mental
processes, and often lead the Jupiter girl into a never-never land of
romance, not knowing where the fire might flame up, or why, and afraid
of being burned when it does. Then she'll play it too cool and be
unable to take anyone seriously, least of all herself. She'll flirt
openly, but without any intention of making it a lasting or a forever
thing, and gain the reputation of a cold heartless female. A fire sign is never cold or heartless, but then there are a lot of astrologically ignorant men out there who don't know that.
If such a state of affairs should happen to lead to spinsterhood, she
certainly won't be a dry and bitter old maid. She'll still clown with
life and have a barrel of fun. She'll have a dozen interests to replace
a man-and enjoy every one of them.
Of
course, you're not interested in a Sagittarian spinster. You plan to
make one your wife someday. (At least, I hope you have honorable
intentions. This poor girl has enough problems without you setting out
to seduce her.) Let's stop dwelling on promiscuity, and think about
marriage. Like the male Sagittarian, she's a little skittish about
wedlock. You'll need to use some bright, colorful pieces of tinsel as
bait to get her pinned down (to accepting your proposal, that is).
She's breezy and unconventional in her relationships with men. Since
she considers herself your equal, she may copy your mannerisms, as well
as wear your sweater. If she also likes sports and camping, as lots
of Sagittarian females do, you may have trouble distinguishing her
from the boys. But she's not the same. For one thing, your sweater
looks different on her. Not that Jupiter women are
offensively masculine by nature. They can be the softest, most feminine
women you ever squeezed. It's just that she pals around with so many
men you get used to seeing her in the crowd-everywhere but in the steam
room and the gym. Since she's so scrupulously honest
and aboveboard, she may be a little careless of her reputation and
contemptuous of the hypocrisy demanded by society. If you question
her about it, she'll be plain-spoken. She'll probably tell you that
waltzing in at midnight doesn't indicate promiscuity any more than
coming home at a more conventional hour indicates innocence. She knows her morals are above reproach, and that's all that matters. Naturally, she's dead wrong. What other people think matters very much to a female reputation. But try to understand her attitude. Don't think she's fast and loose just because she laughs at a few jokes,
usually without the slightest idea of what they're all about (the
subtlety of the double-entendre often escapes Sagittarius). So she
stays up to watch the sunrise from the George Washington Bridge (or from the top of a silo, if you live in the country) that doesn't mean she's the wildest girl in town.
The
truth is, she's a trusting child at heart. Her outlook is so naive it
makes her vulnerable to wolves, con artists and phonies (though oddly
enough, not in other areas, just in romance). Forget
about how cleverly she argues and how startlingly logical she can be.
All that has nothing to do with her heart. Her mind isn't under
discussion. It's bright and intelligent, and well able to take care of
itself in any emergency. But her heart is defenseless. It falls down
and gets bruised quite often.
That's another thing. She's slightly clumsy. At
times when the Sagittarius girl strides down the street like a
thoroughbred horse, you'll think she's the most graceful woman you've
ever watched-until she stumbles on a crack in the sidewalk, awkwardly
grabs the awning over the fruit stand to catch her balance and upsets
two crates of oranges. The owner may swear a little, but hell soon shrug his shoulders, tell her to skip it, and hand her some grapes. The sunny Sagittarian disposition can melt the hardest hearts.
Now and then, this girl will remind you of a clumsy puppy dog, wagging
its friendly tail, and walking all over your feet. But then friendly
puppy dogs do get lots of people to love them and feed them. Of course,
dogs are a little cheaper to feed. The typical Jupiter girl has a large
appetite. She likes good food and wine, nice clothes, and when she
travels, she likes to go first class. Sagittarians are extravagant by nature (unless the Moon is in Capricorn or there's a Virgo ascendant). Money
for the sake of money doesn't interest them, and it takes quite a bit
of training to teach most of them the meaning of a dollar bill. Check her ascendant carefully before you loan her your credit card.
The
Sagittarian girl you're involved with may be in show business, because
lots of them are drawn by the lure of the footlights.
If so, start out on the right foot by expecting her to put her career
first, until she tires of it. The sweet sound of applause and the
thrill of the encore will ring in her ears with more conviction than
all the romantic phrases you can conjure up. Never force
her to choose between pleasing you and the excitement of pleasing whole
gobs of people at once with her sunshine personality. After a while
she'll grow disgusted with the hypocrisy and artificial glitter she
finds all around her in the world of show business, and she'll come
running home to try domesticity with someone who is real. You. Someone
who believes honesty is beautiful and deception is ugly. You again.
Leaving a career won't remove the wings from her heels forever. They
were fastened there at birth. The travel bug will always be nearby to
give her a case of wandering fever. Vacation with her when you can; otherwise let her go off to ride the carousel herself, and trust her. She loves you, not the clowns and organ grinders she likes to pass the time with.
Because
of her casual attitude toward romance and her shyness of marriage, you
may think she's lacking in sentiment. You are so mistaken. She'll cry
rivers at sad movies and read poetry with wet eyes. She's probably
saved every note you ever wrote her, scraps of the flowers you bought
her in the rain, and the tickets from the hockey game where she met you.
As for her talent as a homemaker, be brave. And be patient. Sagittarius girls are acutely bored by the confinement of dusting and mopping.
No sooner does she make a bed than it gets unmade. Gosh, you'd think
the darned thing would stay neat for a few days anyway, it was such a
drag tucking in those sheets at the corners. She'll hate it all with a
purple passion. When she has a home of her own, however, she'll
probably swallow her distaste. She'll prefer that you get her a maid if you can possibly afford one. If not, she'll doggedly keep it shining Her mother will never believe it. That sloppy child waxing the coffee table? Impossible. Pride and the eternal Sagittarius logic does it. She needs to be surrounded with beauty and cleanliness to be true to herself.
The message reaches her that, if she doesn't wipe up the linoleum, no
one else will. If she was forced by circumstances to do a lot of chores
in childhood, she may rebel at first, but she'll eventually reason it
out, and settle down to sweeping the comers with a minimum of
resentment.
Her
cooking? Well-you can never tell. Maybe you'd just better eat out on
weekends. If she manages decent meals through the week, you can't
expect her to keep a perfect record on Saturdays and Sundays, too.
Most Sagittarian women aren't exactly ecstatic in the kitchen (unless
there's a Taurus, Cancer or Capricorn ascendant). But she
can whip up a mean, fancy dessert when she's trying to cheer you out of
the blues. Her own moods can be terrors, but they're rare, and they
last so briefly you'll hardly notice them. When she's really hurt, her
tongue can be bitterly sarcastic. But she'll forget what she said
almost before she's finished the sentence, and she won't understand
why you want to dwell on it. This is not the woman for a brooding,
melancholy man. Gloom and pessimism, can actually make her physically ill.
Her children will probably adore her. She'll be their buddy, and have a circus playing with them. Once she's lover her initial fear of responsibility, she'll cope with diapers and daily baths like a crisp, efficient nurse. Almost everything she does, she does well, with grace, when she finally decides to learn it.
Just like the big people, the little ones will get a good dose of her
cheerful optimism and outspoken remarks. If they survive her blunt
truthfulness, they'll grow up thinking she's the greatest big sister a
kid ever had. She'll read them funny stories with happy endings, and
take them on sudden, impulsive picnics in the woods to look for the
three bears. (She half believes they're hiding there herself.) Her youngsters will probably be well-dressed, but not fussily so, and bright-mannered. If
they pick up a few unconventional tricks from her, like making
footprint curtains by spreading monk's cloth on the floor, stepping
barefoot into yellow paint and walking across the material-at least you
won't be raising a houseful of conformists. Her honesty will mark their
characters. If they don't find those three bears after a careful search
under all the fir trees, she'll probably tell them to forget it-it's a
phony. But she will have looked first. The child who wrote the editor
of the New York Sun to ask if there was really a Santa Claus
just had to have a Sagittarius Sun sign. Moon or ascendant. She
probably raised her own children by the frank, yet idealistic answer of
"Yes, Virginia . . ." The Jupiter mother may have to watch a tendency to be lax in discipline, except when she's tired or angry. That's the wrong time for spankings.
You'll
have a lovely hostess. No one entertains as graciously as a
Sagittarian woman, not even her Leo sisters, who are no slouches
themselves in the social department. There's a quality
about her sunny, outgoing friendliness that makes people feel deeply
welcome, from the garbage man to your boss. A Sagittarian breaks the ice instantly at the stiffest affairs, though she may raise a few eyebrows, too.
As
long as you let her call her soul her own, and don't make her feel tied
down, your Sagittarius Pollyanna will give you a triple bonus: her
loyalty, her trust and her affection. The three are inseparable,
because when she gives her love, her friendship trots right along
beside it.
The Jupiter woman is an incurable idealist. And
here's a secret perhaps she never told you: She fell in love with you
many years ago, when she was a little girl and wished on the new Moon
for someone to share her honest heart. There were lots of times when she thought she had found you and was disappointed. But
when you finally came along, she knew you right away, because you were
a gentle clown with a dream or two of your own, who took her hand and
showed her the way to the stars.
source: mizian.com.ne.kr/englishwiz/library/names/zodiac/sagittarius.htm
